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(untitled) posted: Wed 2018-09-26 20:03:35 tags: n/a
If you offer someone a cup of tea
and they say "no thanks"
and that's your cue to sulk, guilt, or nag them into accepting...
I'm not sure what the word for that is, but it's not graciousness

If your self-esteem or sense of being liked is dependent on being allowed to do for someone else what they CAN and WANT to do for themselves...

...I'm pretty sure that's codependence

responding to "no thanks" with pressure demonstrates a poor understanding or respect of boundaries, and creates distance and distrust