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fri posted: Fri 2018-11-02 05:57:59 tags: n/a
Voted early on my lunch break yesterday
Made ~3lbs of boneless pork shoulder, ribs-style last night. It was fattier than the cuts we were used to. I amplified the marinade recipe but some things dind't scale 150% exactly: ergo 4 tbsp brown sugar (not 4.5); 2 tbsp coco aminos + 1 tbsp low-sodium soy sauce; 2 tsp blackening seasoning (not 1.5) and 1 tsp mustard powder (not .75).

Miss complained about feeling like "we're in a rut" last night. I feel on-edge every time I hear this conversation-opener. Usually it's in the middle of a spell of lots of things going on already, and usually her idea of a solution amounts to ADDING EVEN MORE to - not just HER plate, but mine as well. I.e. deviating further from the baseline of "a clean plate", and enlisting me, instead of actually applying herself to things already on her to-do list. I didn't spot the dissonance yesterday but I am right now: the "in a rut" complaint juxtaposed against her observation that she's also frequently expressing a sense of being "overwhelmed". I think they're part of the same thing. If you really want out of the rut, then work through a thing on your to-do list. Paint the rock already. File the pile. Extracting a commitment from me to play checkers every Tuesday will not help you feel better about the unpainted rocks and growing piles of filing. Date nights are not the remedy for disorganization and neglect of personal goals. Date nights are the reward for adulting.

What I am definitely not saying is "she doesn't adult"; I know she has a lot of responsibilities and I appreciate all she contributes to our household and all the support she gives me in my responsibilities. What I'm saying is it's easy to mis-identify the source of feelings of discontent. A contented person is a person who has all their chores done.

Emptied the dishwasher
Mailed the annuities thing
haircut at lunchtime

empowerless
When I hired on, it was explained that the company was behind on subcontractor payments, and in whispers I came to understand that if all the sub-c's called their debts and stopped working on "net 30" credit terms, the company would have to fold. The promise was that the company was courting investors... but then in more whispers we learned that they'd been courting investors for years already, with no results, and meanwhile the principals still drive Maseratis on the company dime? So the problem isn't wholly cashflow or margin, part of the problem is executive expectations that exceed earnings, and unwillingness on their part to invest more.

So the policy became: try to catch up on an evenhanded basis, but give priority to subc's who email or phone in to remind us that industry regulations if not our own contracts require payment within a certain amount of time. If anyone got irate about having to dun us, we were supposed to put them on a "hot list" to check their account and pay them timely. Except now we've been instructed to basically abandon our "hot lists" (i.e. our personal promises to these subcontractors). I'm not down with that and I think it's a sign that it's really time to shop around again for another company where the owners aren't driving Maseratis at their own subcontractors' expense.