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wed posted: Wed 2017-07-05 05:03:41 tags: healing
coffee, 7-eleven turkey/ham sammich (19g) transcribed a few pages of 1993 journals * * * Many years ago when I was suffering some heartbreak, I picked up a copy of Dr. Deborah Phillips' 1985 "How to Fall Out of Love". It advocated and instructed the cognitive skill of "thought-stopping" as a first response to the intrusive, misery-inducing thoughts typical of heartache. And I think it was a good self-help investment, as I had need of that skill many times over the years. What Phillips specifically... (...more)
tue posted: Tue 2017-06-20 05:29:37 tags: healing
ThoughtCatalog: 20 Toxic Tactics Terrible title, good field guide for spotting narcissistic and/or abusive distortions. Back in college one of the courses I took when I was leaning toward a Psych degree was Abnormal Psych. In our journey through the DSM-IIIR of course we touched on personality disorders. When you're coming at it as an academic exercise, it's easy to think that all these disorders are rare and somewhat evenly distributed. But from my decades of experience, the conclusion I've come to is... (...more)
mon posted: Mon 2017-06-19 08:12:10 tags: books, healing
One of my Bookbub deals today was "The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage" for $1.99 (reg. 9.99). The top comments on Amazon are that the idea of "The 5 Second Rule" can be explained in one well-written blog post, or gleaned from the pertinent TEDx Talk (starting ~19:00), so don't waste your money. Here's the tl;dr version: As soon as you have an impulse to do something, start counting down mentally from 5, because you have 5 seconds to take action. If you don... (...more)
sat morning serenity posted: Sat 2017-06-10 10:27:10 tags: healing
Many recovery meeting groups follow a monthly cycle of formats: Speaker, Chair's Choice, Step Study, Annniversary. Each time I go to a meeting and hear the reminder that anniversaries are this part of the community traditions, I think "gee I should decide when to count my anniversary from". I ordered the Kindle ed of the "Big Red Book" 2016-08-24 and sampled a number of different meetings (GA FLL, NA Pompano, ACoA Boca FUMC East and Glades Presby) in Aug-Sept., so I'm good with rolling that anniversary up ... (...more)
thu (pt. 1) posted: Thu 2017-06-01 07:12:16 tags: healing
I've been pondering parallel situations that call into focus the sheer weirdness of the argument where my choices get misappropriated and twisted around as if they reflected on anyone but me. S1. Imagine you have an old friend whose clothing choices you sometimes question. What she wears is generally clean and in good condition - no fraying seams, patches, missing buttons etc. But sometimes you don't like some of the colors, patterns, fabrics, or cuts she wears. Anyway, one day you and your sister and y... (...more)